what's in a name?

so i kind of have a dilemma.

i want to be a therapist right? right,

well i kind of have this issue with america having to give everything that is foreign (bird flu, swine flu, cutting, etc.) a name.

heeeello. i want to be a therapist, i have to listen to people bitch about their problems and figure out why things are happening to them, or why they act a certain way.

for example; disorders.

add/adhd is ridiculously over diagnosed...i mean come on, do we really expect a four year old to sit still in a chair with only one 15 minute recess break? if you do, then you're an idiot.

but this blog is not about children it is about emerging adults...why is it, every time a college age students or recent graduate that may have an issue or a self-worth questioning event they automatically have a disorder because how they deal with something or how they act may be 'unhealthy?'

yes, there is a counterpart to this argument. if someone drinks excessively after a dramatic event, no that is not healthy.

someone who tries to commit suicide multiple times, no that is not healthy.

but what about someone who is just shy, doesn't like being around large groups, isn't very talkative, etc.

because they are not 'social' enough, they may have antisocial personality disorder.

what the hell does that even mean?

basically the one flaw someone has, take that term and add 'personality disorder' to the end of it.

someone who enjoys having deep friendships, so in turn only has four or five really close friends, and if one of those friendships go slightly sour they have borderline personality disorder.

or someone who loves them self and knows they were blessed with a great body and a friendly, personable attitude may have narcissistic personality disorder.

i mean seriously, this in itself is crazy.

why does everything have to have a name?

maybe the first person is just shy, or the second person just doesn't like large groups, they may just be an introvert, or the third person just has great self-esteem, why are all of these factors to having a personality disorder?

this is what i'm seeing. to not have a personality disorder of any kind this is what a person needs to look like:

-not be completely into themselves, but still know they are worth peoples time.

-be social enough they can make a conversation with anyone.

-every personality has to mesh with every personality.

-there has to be a balance of deep friendships with just regular friends(what is a regular friend?)

-people have to get eight hours of sleep a night.

-eat healthy for every meal.

-be able to stick up for themselves, but know when to submit to authority.

basically this person has to be perfect in every aspect of the word.

that does not exist. people have problems, we all have our little quirks, so someone who likes going to bed at 9pm and skips the party because they know they need the sleep does not mean they are depressed, it does not mean they are anti-social.

it means they know what they need to be productive the next day.

another example: it is not wrong on any level for people to expect to be trusted by their friends.

it is okay to tell a friend something personal and expect something personal back (maybe not at that time, but they should know they can share something personal back).

that is what a friendship is, give and take.

one friend can not take everything and not be able to share anything.

and a friend can not give everything and not receive anything in return, both friends are showing a disservice if they do not trust each other.

friendships have to be equal, and personality disorders are just a way to give a name to something they may not like about themselves.

there is nothing wrong with you. unless your safety is at stake, it is just who you are.